move to a new city

imagine waking up tomorrow in a city where nobody knows you. no friends. no connections. no reputation. no familiar coffee shop. just you and a blank slate.

that thought either excites you or terrifies you. either way, it's worth doing.

why starting over rewires your brain

when you live in the same place for years, you calcify. your routines become ruts. your social circle becomes an echo chamber. your identity becomes fixed — "i'm the funny one," "i'm the quiet one," "i'm the one who always..." — and those labels stop you from evolving.

a new city shatters all of that. nobody knows the old you. nobody has expectations. you get to be whoever you want, and that freedom is both terrifying and clarifying. who are you when nobody's watching? who do you become when there's no script to follow?

the practical objections (and why they don't hold up)

"i can't afford it." you can afford to move somewhere cheaper than where you live now. "i'd miss my friends." real friendships survive distance. the ones that don't were proximity friendships, not genuine ones. "what about my job?" remote work exists. jobs exist in other cities. this is a logistics problem, not an impossibility.

every objection is a fear wearing a practical costume.

the safety net lie

the "safety net" you think you need — familiar people, familiar places, familiar routines — is actually a comfort cage. you don't need a net. you need to prove to yourself that you can build a life from nothing. that skill — the ability to start from zero and create something — is the most valuable thing you can develop.

how to start

you don't have to move tomorrow. but you should:

1. pick a city that interests you
2. visit for a long weekend
3. imagine your daily life there
4. calculate the actual costs
5. give yourself a deadline to decide

the person who can thrive anywhere is free in a way that the person who can only thrive in their hometown will never understand.

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