get roasted

your ego is more fragile than you think

you know who can't handle a joke at their expense? people who are deeply insecure. and you know who thinks they're not insecure? also those people. the ability to laugh at yourself isn't a party trick — it's a genuine marker of emotional maturity.

why getting roasted actually helps

when you voluntarily invite criticism — even the exaggerated, comedic kind — you're training your brain to decouple your identity from other people's opinions. every time someone makes a joke about your weird laugh or your questionable fashion choices and you genuinely laugh along, you're proving to yourself that you're more than those surface-level things.

self-deprecation, done right, is a power move. it signals that you're secure enough to acknowledge your flaws without being destroyed by them. that's attractive, that's leadership material, and that's rare.

how to do this

ask your closest friends to roast you. set the ground rules — nothing genuinely hurtful, keep it funny — and let them go. pay attention to what stings. that sting is useful information about where your insecurities live.

if you want to go nuclear, post a photo to reddit's r/roastme. strangers will find things to mock that you've never even considered. it's brutal, it's hilarious, and it's strangely liberating.

the deeper lesson

the things you can't laugh about are the things that control you. every joke that lands without destroying your mood is another chain broken. you don't need everyone to think you're perfect. you need to be okay with the fact that you're not.

if this resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.